A short story about my kinfolk and me and the music, taste & style as experienced as a teen…

She lived as a teen in the 1850’s

Joachine Demarais Williamson, my great, great, great grandmother, would have listened to some traditional folk songs during this era as well as songs like Nelly Bly, I Have Got the Blues Today, and Cap Town Races.  Camp Town Races was upbeat, and hand clapping & shoe stomping. Even when I hear it from time to time or just bust out and sing it, yes, yes, that’s correct, I actually do just bust out and sing Camp Town Races now and again. I get all-hand clapping and upbeat; it’s super fun; you ought to try it, and I bet that’s what she did…or at least when no one was looking! Choruses in songs began to evolve and be a significant part of songs back then. What would I do without a chorus? Oh man, that’s like my favorite part of a song. As a child, my sisters and I would take turns and fight over who got to sing the chorus in our favorite songs! WE had no idea Carly Simon was singing about her lover gone bye bye, we just wanted to sing “Clouds in my Coffee, Clouds in my Coffee, You’re so Vein”. We literally did fight over who would sing that plus several other songs. My sisters and I played 8 tracks and albums all day long just to sing chorus!  I bet that happened back when Joachine was cutting a rug too! 

Her wardrobe consisted of long, heavy, bunchy material from head to toe, buttons and lace, no skin showing, bustle-wearing dresses. My only photo of her is when she was much older in an old, worn-out dress just like the one described, but it’s definitely plainer. With age, people don’t tend to be trendy; back then, it was modest, not functional, just plain modest. I wonder what she slept in.  I hope she got to cool off at least some part of her 24 hours! I wish I knew more about her; I can only imagine her enthusiasm for entertainment by the look in her eyes.  She says, “Well, go on now, go on and get, and get your fiddle and spoons and come back and play me a tune”!

 She lived as a teen in the 1880’s

Mary Jane wore a long black dress with buttons from her stomach to her neck, lace around the neck, and her hair in a bun.  She listened to music like Polly Wolly Doodle All the Day, Oh My Darlin’ Clementine, The Whistling Coon, Turkey in the Straw, Hello Ma Baby, and ones that we all might be more familiar with, like The Entertainer and Yankee Doodle Boy. The dance style was interpreted as joyful intermingling couples dancing and was considered romantic. Dances like the Arbor March, the Quadrille, and The Stars were popular. When I watch dance history videos of this era, I am reminded of a similar childhood dance called London Bridges, minus the falling down part! I wonder what it would have been like to be prim and proper. 

I am not going to lie; I am so glad I didn’t live back in those days, not the prim and proper part so much, but to wear those dresses without Air conditioning, no thank you.  Besides that, although jovial, the music doesn’t really move me (Maybe except Polly Wolly and Turkey and the Straw), but I’m happy it moved her. 

She lived as a teen in the 1910’s

Maggie Hayes loved to go to dances. She said in her memoir, “The happiest time in my life was when I was a teenager going to dances.” She shares in her writings that she started going to dances when she was 14, and she would go to every dance she heard of; dancing was her greatest pleasure.  “We would start dancing at night and dance until the sun came up.”  I think it’s funny she remarked that she “avoided many boys whom I knew were trying to dance with me.” Maggie was selective, ha!

Some songs from her era were Danny Boy, When Irish Eyes Are Smiling, By the Light of the Silvery Moon, Swanee, Let Me Call You Sweetheart, and Alexander’s Ragtime Band.

I have a photo of her when she was a teen, and she was dressed in what I would consider a Little House on the Prairie dress, but it cuts off just below the knees. No bonnet on her head, that era had passed, but a large bow in the back of her hair and her high button shoes. I like to think this is the perfect picnic dress.  It has plenty of material for you to sit on like a picnic blanket, and thenyou can run up to the top of a hill and spin around in circles with a piece of straw in your mouth like the good ‘ol days! When I think of her joy as a teen, it reminds me of my joy when I was a teen; oh, what fun I had!

She lived as a teen in the 1940’s

As a teen, Inez Hayes Armstrong wore bobby socks and oxfords. When she got dressed up, she would wear a flowy skirt just above her knees, a small heel, a fur coat, and her hair pulled back from the sides with a poofy top. Her only make-up was face powder.  She shared that she would smear so much on her face that her mother once remarked, “Inez, you shouldn’t put so much powder on your face, or people will think you fell in a flour barrel.” I can relate to going overboard learning to apply make-up as a teen, that shimmery blue eye shadow and thick mascara; no matter what, I loved it just like my grandma loved her powder, ha!

Her entertainment was going to the movies. I must also get that love from this grandmother, and it’s a favorite pastime of mine.  In her era, the music consisted of Swing, Big bands like Lawrence Welk, Latin, and familiar names like The Andrews Sisters, Bing Crosby, Cab Calloway, and Frank Sinatra. I love looking at pictures of her in her teen years in all her wardrobes. She wore romper-type overalls (adorable), skirts, long slacks-type shorts, high waist shorts with a belt, hair strategically fashioned, fancy little hats, dresses while bike riding, short sleeves, button tops that showed some skin, and tops that can be worn off the shoulders (oh la la, let’s fancy Grandma).  I imagine that she played the radio all the time, the type of radio where you can imagine the commercials of Ovaltine, Coca-Cola, and Sunbeam bread advertisements.

 She lived as a teen in the 1960’s

Marian Jean Armstrong Millo, my mother. As a teen, she loved The Beatles, The Beach Boys, The Supremes, The Four Seasons, Sonny & Cher, Elvis, Herman’s Hermits, The Mamas & The Papa’s, Nancy Sinatra, Steppenwolf, The Turtles, The Archie’s, The 5th Dimension, and so much more of that era. 

She made her own dresses, mod style, way above the knee’s, or sleek looking form-fitting slacks, with sweaters or waistline blouses, and the shoes were mainly flats. Her hair was teased, sometimes with a ribbon. 

She loved to dance, and I’ve seen her do them all; she showed my siblings and me when we were growing up, and we all loved to mimic that time.  The dances were The Twist (Please let’s bring this back), The Watusi (What I would give to have my husband’s hips move like that!), The Mashed Potato (That takes some skill right there), The Pony (Usually how I look on the daily every time I have to go pee), The Swim (I’d love to dance with John Travolta with this style), The Jerk ( I can’t stop dancing this way, it’s my spirit animal), and The Skate (A definite fav)!

I love looking at pictures of her in this era; it’s definitely a time I would have loved to live in, mainly because of the dress style and music. Plus all that home cooking and television shows like Bewitched, The Dick Van Dyke Show, The Andy Griffith Show, Gilligan’s Island, The Beverly Hillbillies, and The Lucy Show, what fun! I’m sure she did have a lot of fun back then, too!

Rene Nolte (me), I lived as a teen in the 1980’s

I LOVED growing up in the ’70s-80s’70s-’80s!  

The music, the entertainment, the clothes, new restaurants.

My parents controlled the music in the house in the 70”s so I listened to all their favorites, which really became my favorites, like The Doobie Brothers, The Beach Boys, Fleetwood Mac, The Bee Gees, The Village People, and oldies from the 50’s and 60’s were often played in the home.

We always had music playing, and I loved it. In the 80s, I had an 8-track player, a record player, and then a cassette player. For Christmas one year, I got the mother load… A Jam Box! I was living the dream! I bought my own 8 tracks, records, and cassettes with my allowance. 

My first album was Michael Jackson, Olivia Newton-John; I also had music from Blondie, Pat Benatar, Hall and Oates, Duran Duran (Heartthrob, Sigh), George Michael, Stevie Wonder, The Sugarhill Gang, Beastie Boys, and lots of new wave music.  Then my parents opened up a Teen Dance Club, and my dad had a ton of music, so I didn’t have to buy any; he had them all, and my siblings and I had all the space in the world to dance and play music daily!  When I wasn’t in my dad’s teen club, I was in a different teen club dancing. I LOVED to dance; I know where I got that from my ancestors! 

My clothes were bought on a budget, but I was selected. 

I had a member’s only jacket and a pair of parachute pants; they were aqua, and I LOVED them.  I spent all my Christmas money one year on those babies!  I had the checkered vans, boat shoes, surfer shirts, Sergio Valente and Jordache Jeans. I may have worn the same clothes repeatedly, but I was obsessed with them! Are parachute pants making a comeback?

My daughter was a teen in the 2010’s

My baby girl, Alexis Re’ Welker.  She danced all her life just like her mother did.  I grew up in dance classes, and so did she; she was always around music because we always had music playing, just like I grew up with. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree, right?!  Her music era was different than mine; by now, lyrics are pretty out there, and a lot of hate and say what you want fills them.  I needed to filter versions of songs from vocalists like Eminem, Ludacris, and Lil Wayne…the beats, though she always found a dance that fit the beats.  She also liked Taylor Swift, Rihanna, Lorde, Miley Cyrus, Iggy Azalea, Lil Jon, Dem Franchise Boyz, Young Dro, Beyonce, Drake, and Adele. 

Dance clubs weren’t her thing, though; parties were, and Homecoming and Prom, and every chance she could, she’d blast the music in my car while parked and would jam, getting out and dancing if she felt like it. She knew all the latest dance moves, or she made some up and did mash-ups.  The dance names were different in her time from every era since the beginning of time. Dances like The Stanky Legg, The Superman, The Jerk, Teach Me How to Dougie, Lean Wit It, Rock Wit It, Walk It Out, Soulja Boy, and then some… but she knew them all and could dance them like she was the one who made it up!

As a teen, her clothing was fashioned by stand-alone boutique shops.  I’d take her to all the different shops, she loves to shop, like me.  But she was my only girl and the baby, so I didn’t mind that she was spoiled.  Shopping for clothes and shoes, eating foodie, and oh yes, the dress and swimsuit shopping too, that and heels, she ALWAYS looked good.  Unless she had a grunge day, only about once a week.  She would also wear jeans with holes in them and team/school sports t-shirts she would also wear a lot. She played sports throughout school, but she could rock a t-shirt.  I think it was and is mainly her confidence and attitude.  Her sense of humor in all things is epic.

 When this blog was written she was obsessed with 2 stores, Target and Olive Ave.  Whatever they have, you’ll see her in it! I know she had a blast as a teen; perhaps too much fun, and definitely spoiled.  On the last day of school as a Junior, I picked her up and said I’m taking you home to pack, we’re going to LA on a shopping spree.  She was mad at me…she complained the whole time she was packing, even as we headed to the airport.  I said, “Alexis, you should be thankful and happy; you are like the luckiest girl on the planet!” She said loudly but humorously, “No, no, I’m not the luckiest kid on earth. Augustus Gloop is, and he’s the luckiest kid on the planet!” I couldn’t stop laughing…needless to say, we had a blast!

I can’t wait to write my granddaughter’s teen stories of their era; my oldest granddaughter is 7, my middle one is a year and a half, and myyoungest one is 7 months. Oh, what fun to be had?  I hope they can and will ponder as I did about my ancestors and see how times change, music changes, and style changes, but what doesn’t change is the feeling you get when you hear the music you like.  To make it even better, the style of your personality, what you dress like that goes with that blend of music and taste, and what you spend your time doing.  I hope all good memories will be had just as they were before and so on and so on and so on.

I hope you enjoyed this stroll through time via my American family female vibes. Do you know your family’s music history and style? Write your own family’s story next! 🙂

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